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The Tree Bark That Leaves a Mind Mark

May the nature of your nurturing nourish your now with all that's new, next and best. May the past selves of your self fall in love with the future of your huemanity. May the wonder of your oneness align you to the alchemy of your audience. May the now serve your forever. May the ways of your abundance be the always of your authenticity. May the breath of your being be the freshness of your belonging. May the hearts you heal connect the healing of your heArt.

3.6.22 | 3:11 PM | Space as a Pace. A Treat as a Seat. RePeat.

Selfie Sundae is about surrender to the storyline from the way some feelings stay and others stray.

When we shift into an aerial view, under ground view, side view and we draw context from a refractive view, we can connect to the reflective view most clear to our current comprehension.

For the hueman being - it is only a matter of the here and now.

What feels most aligned is the framework of freedom: a dome of dimensions in which you can time travel through all forms of your cellves, selves, and self and free-float through the beauty of your belonging - with gravity as a gravitational pull and magnetism as a universal push.

The way we attract abundance is to offer it - freely, consciously, constructively and abundantly.

Be nothing. Offer everything.

Connection is the currency to our selves through our cellves.

What we give to the world is a gift from our self; yet, through our cellves - our presence is the present.

What is more perfect than the exchange of air between a tree and a body?

We all breathe the same breath.

One inhalation of a thought; one exhalation of a molecule of infinity.

The universe is ever forgiving, ever loving and ever lasting.

What else could be comprehendible aside from life is short as reality
but reality is eternity as time.

The moment we reframe our remnants is when we regroup the framework.

Collect the calm.

Birth the compassion.


Pause. Breathe. Be.

Imagine yourself at a conference room table with 10 seats around.

You are the 11th person in the room.

Now look at your fingers.

Design a self of your selves for every finger you have and name that self as an entire identity.

Match up the names of your hands, fingers, and identities to the seats of the table.

Each "identity" of your self sitting down at the table is now within your own reach.

That's right. Imagine that your hands are the power lights to the language of that self in your presence.

Pause. Breathe. Be.

What is the correlation between your body and your belonging?
The presence of your being.

Be present with your body as you are aware of your environment.

Have conversations with every identity of your self in the room.

Talk to all of the people around you from within you.

Now look at your hands again.

Pause. Breathe. Be.

Look around the conference room of all of your selves conversing then close your eyes for 3 seconds.

Pause. Breathe. Be.

Look at your hands again. All fingers are operating independently yet connected by the same power mechanisms.

Hold hands with your self. Hear through your selves.

Pause. Breathe. Be.


Excerpt from 5.25.20 | "Hi Friend, I'm here for you."

I want to remind you to check on your strong friends.

Check on anyone who crosses your mind.

Most importantly, check in with yourself.

Everyone has their way of coping with their struggles and their trauma.

Please don't mistake someone's coldness for rudeness.

Just have heart and be kind.

You never know what someone is experiencing.

This era of time is unlike what anyone has ever experienced. Not only do people struggle by being trapped in their mental settings, now we've been "trapped" in physical settings.

Although we may not know how to comfort someone through whatever they may actually admit to you.

Be a confidant. Be patient. Be the friend you would need.

Assuming someone is fine because they look fine is a huge misconception.

Know that the brightest smiles often hide the deepest pains.

Ask a friend how they're doing. Not just a "how are you" ask them how they are mentally, how is their energy, what's going right in life and what's going wrong.

Open up to the next layer of their personality. Dive in deep.

Below are some tips I've personally wanted to share with you if you know someone who's confessing their struggles of being in a hostile, abusive, or toxic environment.

  • Don’t tell them they’re stupid or they deserve it. They’re not and no one - NO ONE - deserves it.

  • DO remind them that they’re loved and worthy. Tell them that you love their brilliance and that they deserve the best. Remind them of their smile and how happy it makes you to see them happy.

  • Don’t just tell them to get out. If it was that easy, well, we wouldn’t be here.

  • DO Be there until and when they get out, then hug the hell out of them and remind them that better days are ahead. Offer them the resources they need.

  • Don’t ask why. They don’t know why. Or sometimes they think they do. Often, it sounds like “it’s love” “I have to” “but my kids” or 47237 other things that are masked acceptance.

  • DO Be their reason ‘why.’ Show them why not. Remind them that for the thousand reasons to stay there are a thousand more reasons to go.

  • Don’t speak negatively. Avoid the “you can’t,” “you’ll never,” “it’s your fault,” they hear it enough, trust me.

  • DO speak strength and patience and demonstrate those attributes. A simple “I’m here for you” and showing that goes a long way.

  • Don’t make it about the abuser. It already is. Hello narcissism.

  • DO focus on your friend/loved one. Instead of “you’ll never succeed with him/her in your life.” Try something like “I believe in your potential and the power you have within you to succeed.”

  • Don’t judge them. Avoid referring to their past mistakes and shortcomings and maintain a neutral or positive body language.

  • DO be accepting. Say aloud that it’s a judgement free zone and make sure you’re doing everything to keep it that way.

  • Don’t be discouraged by them closing off on you, being distant, ignoring you or even being aggressive in their tone.

  • DO offer support in help in any way. Whether it’s dropping off groceries, babysitting for an hour, or sharing some funny memes. The offer won’t go unnoticed, I promise.

  • Don’t ever, ever give up on them. They’ve likely given up on themselves. They need a hero. They need you.

  • DO remind them that you’re just a phone call, text, DM, or short drive away. Remind them that they’re loved and what they mean to you. Remind them that hugs are priceless and that you can’t wait for your next girls’ night and laughing until you can’t breathe.

Thank you for reading this.

Thank you for caring enough to be a better loved one, a better you.


Love what you've experienced? It's the start of something new. It's the start of something YOU!

Let's continue the story of your sweetness. Chapter 1: Go Where You Grow

Let's take our connection outside of here + right into there >>



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